By HAYES RULE
(9) Ask someone how his/her day has been and actually listen
And I don’t mean saying “What’s up?” as an easy conversation starter. Slow down for a moment and show a genuine interest in how someone’s day has gone/is going. Most people, if you know them decently well, will gladly go through their day -- both the good and bad. Here’s the kicker: Genuinely pay attention to what the person is saying. Don’t simply nod your head and respond with a cliché; follow up with a question that shows you truly have an interest in how that person’s day is going. People appreciate when someone cares about them and their well-being.
(8) Get some form of exercise
Maintaining/developing your physical body can be just as important as doing so for your mental state. As an athlete, taking care of my body is part of my job, but it should still be a relevant aspect of everyone's day. You don’t have to go to the gym or run for miles on end every day, but do something. Personally, I try to take a few minutes to do push-ups and core exercises when I wake up and before I go to bed. It only takes a few minutes, but it can impact how I feel throughout the day. Maintaining your physical health plays a key role in your mindset and effectiveness in other aspects of life.
I love to smile. And I love being with people who love to smile. Plenty of time is spent under stress or duress in some sense, so it’s unbelievably therapeutic to smile or laugh. Smiling (legitimately… don’t awkwardly smile at people) is contagious and, I believe, is one of the most effective signs of true joy in a person.
P.S... For all the ladies out there, a nice smile is probably my biggest weakness. A great, infectious smile is one of the most attractive features; I think most guys would agree with me. Just saying.
(6) Say “I love you” to someone you care about
It’s vital to make sure you let the people you love know you care for them. Life is fragile. Don’t regret not spending time with the ones you love or not being open about your feelings for them.
(5) Compliment yourself on something – anything
Don’t become absorbed in yourself, but a quiet self-confidence is invaluable. Wake up and compliment yourself on completing all of your work the previous day. Compliment yourself on an aspect of your physical appearance. Compliment yourself on a character trait. Place yourself in a beneficial mindset before and throughout the day.
Most importantly, truly believe the compliment you’ve given yourself. As much as we may try, it’s nearly impossible to trick the brain. If you don’t believe your compliment, then it’s an empty compliment. Don’t always overlook your faults, but everyone needs that reassurance for aspects they like about themselves. Offering compliments every day will develop your belief of those compliments.
(4) Experience something new
Don’t feel the need to go skydiving right after reading this, but you should strive to expand your horizon each day and attempt something – anything – new. Try a new food. Try a new combination of foods. Learn more about why everyone enjoys lists instead of real journalism. It can be as simple or complex as you wish, but in order to grow, it’s important to experience different perspectives and ideas. By trying something new each day, you’ll expand your horizon in a major way.
(3) Have a meaningful conversation with someone
A similar concept to No. 9, having a relatively deep conversation with someone simply takes it another level. In this case, the conversation should be beneficial for both you and the other person/people. The best way to develop relationships is to dig deeper and discuss more interesting or touchy subjects than the typical “How’s your day going?” or “Did you see that game last night?”
Some people won’t feel comfortable opening up to you, but that’s not the main purpose. Time will allow for someone to become more comfortable and trusting, but having a meaningful conversation can be any discussion that allows you to grow intellectually or progress the relationship forward.
(2) Do something for someone that offers no benefit to you
Lay your self-interest aside to brighten someone else’s day. This is a simple concept that is easy to accomplish, but many of us still don’t make the effort to do so. Pay for a stranger’s meal – and not only if they’re attractive and you want to “impress” them. Understand the difference between doing something for someone else and doing something for someone else that doesn’t benefit you in any way.
It’s easy to perform an act of kindness if you feel you’ll potentially gain from it – even if this is a subconscious thought, it’s still present. You can even take this concept a step further: Do something for someone that hampers you in some way. Take 15 minutes out of studying to go drive someone to get food; doing so allows you to develop true unselfishness.
(1) Pray/have quiet time
I’m a Christian, so I believe it’s important to set aside a little time each day to pray and grow in my faith. Even if you’re not a Christian, this concept is still relevant. Given the hustle and bustle of our generation, it’s more important than ever that we set aside at least five/ten minutes each day to ponder life. Trust me, I know Instagram and Snapchat can be addictive and very distracting. When you have down time, force yourself to put the devices down and think about your actions that day. Where could I have improved? How can I grow to become a better person tomorrow?